I had a comment on Instagram a while back that someone thought an outfit I'd put together was a great costume idea. I'm Not Wearing A Costume - I … [Read More...]
I had a comment on Instagram a while back that someone thought an outfit I’d put together was a great costume idea.
I’m Not Wearing A Costume – I Dress For Myself
The first thought that ran through my head was,
“Good grief! People think I’m wearing a costume?”
Then afterwards I was just pissed because I felt attacked as a person, not simply my style.
When I choose my outfits I’m choosing to dress as myself, in a way that expresses visually who I am. An attack on my clothing choices feels like an attack on my character as a person.
This leads me to the outfits I wore for the Toronto Vintage Clothing Show, which BTW…in case you were wondering…aren’t costumes!
While I certainly take inspiration from film and TV what I wear is a direct reflection of me as a person on any given day of my life. I’m dressing to please myself so that when I look in the mirror the image I see reflects who I am. I don’t ever see a stranger dressed in a costume, I’m dressed as myself, which is maybe a bit too creative and weird for some, but just right for me.
Expressing yourself creatively through your clothing choices is an opportunity. Some view it as an opportunity to wear the latest trends or follow the advice of a celebrity or blogger.
While bloggers and celebrities are a wonderful source of inspiration, they aren’t fashion Gods.
When it comes to dressing yourself you are the master of your own domain. You need to make those choices for yourself based on what you see reflected in your mirror. You get to choose how other people see you. The impression that your clothes make is a lasting one. Like we say about food, “We eat with our eyes first and our mouths second,” I’d say the same about forming first impressions, we expose ourselves visually first and then have the opportunity to follow up verbally.
I don’t worry that some people may not understand what I’m trying to communicate to the world. They simply don’t “get” me. The most important thing is that when I look in the mirror I’m happy with myself and I know I’m putting my best self out there.
Do you ever look in the mirror and feel like you are wearing a costume, or don’t recognise the person staring back at you? What choices or circumstances made you feel that way?
Linking up with Fun Fashion Fridays
often always influenced by the fashion I see while watching TV. Lately, I’ve become emersed in Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries. For those of you that haven’t watched this brilliant Australian series, I’d describe Miss Fisher as a female Jame Bond, only better, with a wardrobe to die for.
She lives the life all of us want, full of adventure, sex and intrigue all while looking like she stepped right off the pages of Vogue. No worries about money, she is independently wealthy.
Miss Fisher isn’t twenty something, she is a mature independent woman living her life to the absolute fullest, not a care in the world about what society thinks. A feminist that enjoys and owns her sexuality while hunting down the bad guys dressed to the nines.
A female superhero strong, sexy and intelligent.
“A woman should dress first and foremost for her own pleasure.” – Miss Fisher
My obsession with the series includes the amazing set decor. The whole series is a feast for the eyes.
I’d been searching for a velvet fainting couch for my bedroom for years. I spotted a hand carved rosy peach masterpiece in an online estate sale.
The online bidding war was beyond intense.
I honestly thought my heart might jump right out of my chest and land on the keyboard. A bidding war is terribly exciting! I prevailed and I think Miss Fisher would approve.
Dress, Decorate Miss Fisher Style
Soon a tapestry will cover that entire back wall (once it hurries up and gets here!) and I’m currently looking for a small area rug to complete the space, although once the tapestry goes up I may no longer require the rug.
The dress is currently for sale in my Etsy store. It is a beauty. It looks 1940’s but is actually 1980’s Joseph Ribkoff, a Canadian designer. The material is a lovely crepe. I’m wearing my altered booties. I added a bunch of rhinestones to the heels. I still need to make up a proper DIY so you can see just how smashing they turned out. They are what I call “memorable exit booties” as they leave the best impression when I’m walking away.
I’ve styled the dress classically below with some Fluevogs.
I also purchased this Phryne-esque dress and wore it out to tea last week. It is Ralph Lauren 100% silk. I need to take better photos of it once I get my tapestry on the wall.
Zoë also approves of the new couch.
Are there any series you follow that fill you with fashion and home decor inspiration?
There are plenty of things to love about fall, the crisp morning walks, the warm golden hues of changing leaves, the smell of pumpkin muffins that I made this weekend…yum!
Did you know you can cut out half the fat in a cake/muffin recipe and replace it with applesauce? It works! Now let’s see if my waist wakes up and realises that I’ve cut out half the fat.
I also love the annual reemergence of classic plaid for fall.
Plaid is a pattern I love, especially a bold statement plaid for fall like this midi skirt I picked up via thrift.
I’m not really sure why I’ve become obsessed about midi length skirts. I have a feeling it has to do with body confidence, either that or I’ve been watching too many Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries.
As a petite woman normally I would tell you the worst thing you can do to yourself is to wear a skirt below the knee with a large pattern like this plaid.
I love the fact that I’m breaking all my preconceived ideas and rules as I get older. I consider it a bit of a personal challenge to see just how many I can break.
Wearing wild animal print with plaid over
40 50? Oh yeah…I’m breaking something alright.
Have you ever noticed how a tight pattern can confuse the eye? The top is stretchy/
tight fitted but it doesn’t matter because your eye just reads it as one massive area of pattern.
With the larger pattern the eye isn’t as confused and can better define the convex and concave areas (Spanx might come in handy).
Maybe that is why I’m so drawn to patterns, I like to keep everyone confused and guessing.
Yes, I’m matchy matchy. I blame that on Miss Fisher too.
I’ve been buying up vintage plaid skirts lately. Really high quality pleated wool skirts like this sweet one I just listed in my Etsy shop.
5 x Statement Plaid For Fall
Have you broken out the plaid for fall yet?
We’ve been going through some really big changes in the Carillo household of late and it has been rather stressful.
It has sucked the blogging juices right out of me.
Change in itself can scare people.
“Just give me what I know, I’m comfortable here,” is what most of us gravitate towards in life.
Taking risks and moving forward leads to richer lives and better opportunities.
Moving through fear is the hardest but by far the most rewarding thing we can do.
You’re not ever going to feel like doing it, you simply have to force yourself.
There is never an ideal time for life changes.
They show up on their own schedule and we must surrender ourselves to them. We cannot control the ebbs and flows of our life, but we can control how we react to them.
I like to think of it as keeping my face towards the sunshine. Yes, it will be difficult, but in the end, I will be a stronger, happier person. I will have learned things about myself and added another layer to the essence that has made me the person I am today.
To cope with the stress I’ve been taking extra long walks with the pug and making sure I get in my yoga stretches every night. I think I need to increase the yoga and add on some meditation just for good measure. I’m still a novice at the whole meditating thing but I do find it relaxes my mind and helps me quiet the fears that bubble up. Getting back into running wouldn’t be a bad thing either. A sound body often produces a sound mind.
How do you cope when big changes come along?
It doesn’t need to be summer or spring for me to wear florals. I happily enjoy them throughout the year.
Pretty fall floral fashion has been popping up everywhere.
This delicate dress caught my eyes immediately. It reminds me of something from the 1940’s.
Aren’t the sleeves divine?
It is wonderfully swishy as I walk or turn, as you can see by the blurring in the photo above. ( Note to self: Learn how to operate new camera and adjust the ISO.)
Yes, that is a pug hiding out behind me.
She was delighted to get in on the shoot and very well behaved I might add. Might have had something to do with the treats in my pocket.
The tapestry coat was another lucky find while thrifting. It is too tight to close around the ladies, but I figure looks better open anyways.
I was taking some much-needed direction from my co-model here. She knows all the best moves, although I think she may need some help with sucking in her belly. I’m wearing a belt to help me out.
I’m trying desperately not to be upstaged and it isn’t working.
See how much more relaxed I look when I take photos with my pug?
Thanks to Sue for suggesting that I get Zoë in the photos more often. I’m sure this has nothing to do with her being bored to death of seeing photos of me, myself and I.
Here are some other pretty fall floral fashion pieces I’ve spotted that would fit quite happily in my closet.
Nevermind I have no room, I’d make space.
Are you a fan of pretty floral for fall? Do you have any in your closet or are you planning on purchasing any?