Suzanne Carillo

Have you ever been told that you look like, “You’re trying too hard”?

Like Goldilocks trying to find, “just the right bed” if we put too little effort into our clothing and personal care we “gave up” but if we put too much effort into our clothing and personal care we are “trying too hard”.

I was appalled to read recently that women over a “certain age” shouldn’t get eyelash extensions because they look like they are “trying too hard”. Good grief. This shouldn’t even be a topic for discussion. Personal care and clothing is a personal choice.

This touched a nerve since I do have eyelash extensions. I have naturally long, thick, straight, super blond lashes. So blond that you can’t see them. My eyes are also very sensitive to mascara. Previously, I dyed my lashes but my eyes developed an allergy to the dye. Now I get last extensions, not for length, but because I want visible lashes without using mascara.

I don’t feel I should need to justify any choices that I make with regards to my personal style or grooming.

Who judges what is considered too much, too little or just enough?

Me.

how to wear clashing bold colour over 40 suzanne carillo — Tropical silk skirt – thrifted (I adore this one), Shoes – Fluevog (these are so cute!), Top – very old (sim), Owl necklace – Anthropologie (sim), very old.

This image has been Photoshopped. Can you guess where?

No, it’s not the lens blur.

I smoothed out the wrinkles in my top. Why use an iron when you can use Photoshop?

I wasn’t sure about this bold silk A-line Mexx skirt but it is so wonderfully cool and was just $5. The top isn’t the most flattering but the temperature climbed to 39 C with the humidex and when it’s that hot I want as little as possible touching my body.