Cultivating Happiness by Choosing Experiences Over Things
Happy New Year!
Are you ready for 2017?

For 2017 I’ve dedicated myself to focusing on cultivating happiness by choosing experiences over things.
I live far from all my family and friends and therefore my goal this year is to ensure I reconnect and fuel the relationships that fill my heart with happiness.
I believe that friendships or any kind of relationship requires a certain level of maintenance and effort that can be lost in today’s virtual world.
Nothing replaces quality time spent with someone.
Time is the one commodity that we all lack and most valuable when it comes to maintaining relationships. It is the very best gift we can give to each other.
I will be escaping some of the Toronto winter and heading out to visit Sherry in Phoenix during the month of February for a 40+ Blogger Meet-up!
My ticket is already booked! Sherry has been busy planning away and I am so pumped about everything she has already organized. It is going to be a blast!
Did I mention that Sherry is one little ball of positive creative energy? I still haven’t figured out how her huge heart fits into her petite body.
Will I see you there?
Be sure to let Sherry know if you think you might be able to make it.
In March I’m going to be back in BC to visit family and reconnect with long time blogging buddies Melanie and Sue.
Meeting with these two is like a trip to Disneyland for adults. 100% fun.
They have a way of igniting my creativity and making me laugh uncontrollably.
Maybe we’ll create another video. Any suggestions?
After winter has passed several of my blogging friends may come to visit me again during the summer.
Patti ( the Therapist Whisperer) & Ally (the most thoughtful motorcycle riding mermaid in NY).
I’m counting on you both to stuff this summer full of more quality memories. I promise not to be late to the party this time around!
Making the time to get to know my friends better enriches my life in ways that no dress or pair of shoes can.
Come April I hope to meet-up with my wonderful kind and creative friend Anja when I am in Asia visiting my husband currently in Hong Kong for work.
FaceTime is great and all but the pug and I were so happy when he came home for Christmas.
Now we are back to a 13 hour time difference and saying good night when it is morning and good morning when it is night.
Insert very unhappy face here.
Late summer may mean a little trip to NYC for another blogger meet-up this time with Sylvia, Greetje and hopefully a few others. You can read up more on Anja, Greetje and Sylvia from my trip two years ago when I visited them in Holland. It was such a fantastic trip! I am so grateful for meeting these wonderfully unique and inspirational women.
That’s as far as I have planned to create lasting experiences and memories this year rather than focusing on what I want to buy next.
As I get older I’m keenly aware of just how much joy things can bring me.
It is fleeting and superficial.
To assume that by buying a certain object I will somehow magically become the person I’ve always wanted to be, live the life I’ve always dreamed of or become happier is a lie I’ve been fed my whole life by marketing agencies to oil the democratic machine of mass consumption.
The old fashioned and unsustainable “solution” which stimulates our economy and spoils the planet does not fill my heart with lasting joy.
How To Create More Happiness In Your Life
- Spend more time with friends.
- Make a point of doing one small thoughtful gesture daily for someone you know, or someone you don’t.
- Hug a loved one. Go ahead and give them a good long squeeze. You’ll both feel great afterwards.
- Help someone in need.
- Let someone know how much you care about them. Don’t assume they know.
- Pet a furry friend.
- Laugh more often.
That emptiness you’ve been trying to fill up with things will never go away, you need to change your mindset.
Experiences create memories, not things.
When you are on your death bed will you be lamenting that last pair of shoes you didn’t manage to scoop up on sale?
For your sake I hope not.
Small choices in our lives create big changes both for ourselves and the world in which we live.
As a style blogger this is a conundrum I face. Sometimes I feel that blogging doesn’t align with my personal values. I have a passion for clothing however it is simply a tool I use to help me express myself and connect with like minded people. I don’t want to promote fast fashion or over consumption. It is a difficult balance to maintain and one I struggle with every post I write.
This year I will continue to feature thrifted or vintage items on the blog and in my Etsy store as well as old favourites like the dress I am wearing below. I hope in doing so I can inspire other women to consider buying secondhand clothing or shopping in their closets more often.
I wanted to share my thoughts on blogging and how I’m trying to pay particular attention this year to creating enduring moments of happiness with friends and family rather than relying on material goods to fill my life.
Ultimately it is our experiences in life and they way we react to them which create sustainable happiness.
What are your plans for happiness in 2017?
Linking up with Visible Monday, I Will Wear What I Like, Shoe and Tell, Turning Heads Tuesdays, Hat Attack
Of Christmas Past
What are your favourite memories of Christmas past?
For most of us that will involve some kind of food.
It is one of those very rare times of the year when you are not only encouraged, but basically expected to overeat.
High five!
One of my favourite memories is of my Grandma’s wreath.
It was no ordinary wreath, this one was made up of chocolates! I think it came straight from Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. She only had them when I was very young then one year she said she wasn’t able to find them anymore. Cue very unhappy kid face here.
There is a fortune waiting to be made on wreaths chocked full of individually wrapped chocolates people! Wouldn’t you like one? I would. For my bedroom. You know, some nice light 2 am snacking.
We always had to make a day’s long drive to see my Grandparents and the first thing we did upon arrival was run downstairs and find that sweet candy wreath.
Often I’d have to get a stool to help me reach the wreath as it was always just out of my reach and then on my tippy tippy toes I’d grab as many of those delectable chocolates as my little hands could hold.
My mouth is watering just thinking about it.
My Grandma also had a magic chip bowl which I’ve written about before.
This was a few years after that incredible chocolate wreath was no more.
As soon as we got in the door I would run straight to the best spot in front of that chip bowl and eat Sour Cream and Onion Old Dutch potato chips with onion dip until my lips turned blue. That magic bowl was never empty. Just as it started getting low Grandma would appear out of nowhere, having accessed her hidden stash of chips and dump two fresh bags into the bowl. It was a Christmas miracle!

My other Grandma had a cold room in her basement where she stored all of her homemade treats.
She made everything herself. There were German cookies, shortbread cookies, gingerbread men, cakes and squares. It was sugar and butter nirvana in that dark little cold room.
As soon as we arrived at her place we said a quick hello and then it was a quick bee-line to the cold room, often times my Dad in the lead each of us hoping to get there first to find where the best cookies were hidden.

Grandma would yell down,
“Don’t go in the cold room and eat everything! You’ll spoil your appetites!”
My Dad would yell back,
“Don’t worry! We’re just looking Grandma!”
Meanwhile we’d be opening up all the ice cream buckets that held different cookies grabbing a couple of each, shoving them in our mouths and passing them around to the next kid like the sugar junkies we were. It was all so naughty and nice.
And finally, because it isn’t a personal style blog without a bit of personal style here I am wearing one of my Christmas outfits with my sister looking rather pissed.
For 99% of my life I hated having my photo taken, and you can see just how pleased I look here. I can remember being told to smile for the photo. Look at what an obedient kid I was! Ha ha!
Of course it might have something to do with those horrible home perms we were forced into that stank for days. Or maybe it was the fact that my Grandma always sewed the exact same outfit for my sister, thus proving that I was not a unique individual with my own tastes and desires, but simply a kid that had to dress exactly like her sister because my Grandma didn’t want to waste fabric and we couldn’t afford otherwise.
At the age of eleven my family bought an ice cream shop and I began my first job scooping ice cream and selling hot dogs, popcorn, malts and milkshakes. From that day on I’ve never worn the same thing as my sister or anyone else for that matter. I was able to buy whatever I liked with my own money. I’ve never looked back!
As far as outfits for Christmas this year, I may wear this dress on Christmas Eve…
It is a far cry from my pantsuit and ruffled lace blouse.
The dress is wonderfully comfortable and soft but isn’t exactly food friendly.
There will be no sitting by the chip bowl eating till my lips turn blue in this dress.
Also this dress may be a pug hair magnet as it is velvet.
What isn’t a pug hair magnet at this time of year? It’s dry, it’s cold and my pug is shedding her weight in fur daily. I think I could make two brand new baby pugs from the fur she’s shed in the last week.
I need teflon antipughair coated clothing.
I wish this dress had long sleeves. It’s a bit chilly to go without sleeves.
It works very well with my floor length velvet duster which adds the sleeves I require at this time of year, but covers up the awesomeness of the dress.
There I am doing my best version of a statue that is trying to stand very still to avoid contamination by random pug hair.
As long as I don’t sit down anywhere in the house I should be fine.
This is another one of those great vintage pieces I’m undecided about selling. I think I need to take it out on the town at least once before it finds a new owner.
What about you? What are your favourite Christmas memories? Food or fashion wise?
I will be taking a bloggy break until after the holidays.
I will still be updating Vintage By Suzanne and posting randomly on Instagram but otherwise I will catch up with you again in the New Year.
From my heart to yours, wishing you a wonderful holiday filled with chocolate covered wreaths happiness and endless bowls of chips love.
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